Negative Emotions arrive as withdrawal symptoms of another of their accomplices. With a break-off arrives depression and anger. With losing power arrives attention seeking syndromes and the evaporating symptoms for attachment are anger and fear of losing pleasure. So be grateful when these emotions arrive and observe them as they are leaving you and taking away some of their friends with them to make you pure.
Similar is with the positive emotions. Love brings host of problems with it and so does belongingness. As Guruji says “Belongingness can bring about a host of negative emotions. Like demand, jealousy, unawareness and lack of gratitude. Just look into your own life, you feel more grateful to strangers than the people you feel “belong” to you. Belongingness reduces gratefulness, awareness, and gives rise to demands which destroys love. This is the biggest problem in relationships. People are nice to strangers and give more attention to them. With a sense of belongingness comes carefreeness and lack of attention.”
“Here you are a stranger and everyone is a stranger to you!” are the words of the master.